Female sexual pleasure isn’t something we discuss often, but it’s high time we do! From what we have seen in movies, and heard from most people, orgasms are supposed to be these earth-shattering events. When it comes to showing female pleasure in movies, we often see women writhing and moaning in pleasure, making you believe that it is nothing less than fireworks. The truth is, that every body is different, which is why orgasmic experiences can also feel different for different women. It may be fireworks for some, and for others they might be subtle—but the bottom line is, you should feel pleasure!
Simply put, an orgasm is a response to built-up sexual stimulation, the peak of sexual arousal, that feels intensely pleasurable. However, there is no universal definition for an orgasm, and every woman experiences it differently. With so many different descriptions for female orgasms available, it is quite likely that you’ve wondered, ‘Was that an orgasm?’ If so, just know that you are not alone. For your ease of understanding, we have compiled a few signs to tell if you’ve reached the ‘big O’.
One of the common signs to tell whether you have reached an orgasm, is the feeling of build-up of tension, which is then followed by a release of sexual tension. When one is having an orgasm, their genital muscles contract. A few people also refer to orgasms and the sudden release as a ‘vaginal sneeze’. While having an orgasm, you may also experience some of the involuntary body responses such as curling of toes or fingers, moaning, pelvic lifting.
This is one of the most important and tell-tale signs! An orgasm will leave you feeling good and relaxed as it triggers the release of hormones such as oxytocin and dopamine. Oxytocin, also referred to as the ‘love hormone’, can help reduce stress and is associated with bonding. Many women find orgasms to be natural stress relievers. Meanwhile, dopamine, also known as the ‘feel good’ hormone, is associated with pleasurable sensations. All in all, orgasms are supposed to make you feel relaxed and happy.
Either during or post orgasm, a lot of women experience involuntary muscle contractions. Not just the muscles in the vagina, but many feel contractions in their feet, abdomen muscles, thighs and more. Toes curling and back arching during an orgasm is quite common for many women.
Post orgasm, a lot of people feel that their body, especially their genitals, feel extra sensitive. There are plenty of nerve endings on the clitoris and it is totally normal for women to feel super sensitive to the point that they don’t want to be touched for a while. The level of sensitivity may vary for different women, and if it feels too sensitive to be touched, you can concentrate on other areas of your body in the meanwhile.
Many women experience ‘sex flush’ or the ‘orgasm flush’ and observe that the skin on their face and neck and chest appear flushed, and feel a bit warm to touch. This happens because when you climax, the blood circulation increases, bringing the blood to the surface of the skin. This is also associated with the term ‘afterglow’ that people notice post an orgasm.
During an orgasm, you will feel that your heart rate has quickened, and your breathing has accelerated, with a rapid intake of oxygen. It gets your blood racing, and is good for your heart too!
You might feel your legs shake, or feel a slight tremor, but this isn’t cause for concern. During an orgasm, there is a lot of tension built up around the muscles—not just in the genital area, but all over. This is why post an orgasm, you might experience some shaking or contractions.
These are some of the common signs that women experience during an orgasm. In no way does it mean that you have to have experienced all of these things during your orgasm. It all comes down to whether you experienced pleasure or not If you did, you’re on the right track!
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